The Power of Intentional Time Together: Building Emotional Connection in Your Relationship

Think about the last time you truly slowed down together–to have intentional time together–no phones, no rushing, no multitasking. For many couples, that only happens on vacation. And while those getaways can feel magical, saving connection for “someday” leads it to fade in the day-to-day.

Strong relationships aren’t fueled by grand gestures or week-long escapes; they’re sustained by intentional time together. The couples who feel happy and connected know this, which is why they prioritize it.

Here are six reasons why prioritizing intentional time together–especially in this season–can transform your relationship.

couple spending time together in a sauna

1. It focuses our attention

Many people hold the belief that attention is bad, or needing it makes you ‘a burden.’ But I teach my clients that attention is a foundational piece of connection–it’s a core need! We all need it, and we’re hard-wired to want attention from the person who matters to us.

It's easy to let phones, kids, work, or the mental to-do lists take over, leaving two people physically together, but without emotional connection. When you take intentional time together, it says to your partner: “You matter more to me than any of the other distractions.” Attention is what allows your connection to be felt.

Try this: Take ten minutes of screen-free time away from devices every night. Anytime your partner walks into the room, look at them.

2. Intentional time together creates space for curiosity

In relationships, we can easily get stuck in negative assumptions about our partners. These can sound like “I already know how they’ll respond,” or “They’re busy and don’t have time for me” or “There’s no point in asking.”

One way to challenge those negative assumptions? Curiosity. This is all about asking questions, building compassion and empathy, and understanding your partner. A long-term partnership is knowing that the person in front of you is not the same person you first met. And when you take time just the two of you, everything can slow down for you to be curious together.

Try this: Reconnect with your partner and ask, “Tell me more about that.” Or “Was there a time today when you thought of me and what were you doing?”

3. It strengthens emotional safety

When there's time just the two of you, your nervous systems have a chance to sync up. Being in calming spaces, like the rest areas built around Thermea Spa Village Winnipeg, can further deepen the messages to your bodies that you are on the same team, you are safe, and there is room for both of you. Emotional safety is essential to attachment security in a relationship–sharing vulnerabilities, repairing hard moments, and trusting each other.

Try this: Ask your partner to share something stressful and just listen. No fixing or problem solving.

couple spending time together in a thermal bath

4. It's a reminder that it's not about the roles you play but instead the interconnectedness

A common struggle for couples? They slip into taskmaster, manager, coordinator and problem solver roles. Uninterrupted time allows you to step outside of those roles and remember what matters to you. You put the connection first. I love the idea of looking over at your partner, while having the same experience, and thinking, “I choose you.” That’s intimacy. Not role assignments.

Try this: Connection isn’t just built on words or physical touch. It’s also developed through eye contact. Prioritizing shared wellness experiences, while in the sauna or hot tub at Thermea Spa Village Winnipeg, hold your partner’s gaze for thirty to sixty seconds. This will release oxytocin–the bonding chemical in your brain.

5. Autonomy is part of togetherness

Intentional time together is just as important as protected time for ourselves. I remind my clients that in order to live a meaningful life, we not only look at our time with others, but also the connection with ourselves. And this allows us to tune into what really matters to us, to make conscious choices, and to hold compassion and care for us.

Try this: Take time just for you without needing to “do” or “accomplish” anything. Going through the spa cycle at Thermea Spa Village is a powerful way of connecting within yourself and not having to “do.”

6. Connection is built through micromoments

Most people think they need long conversations into their childhood in order to spark connection. Yes, exploring our past is part of what bonds us, but it isn’t the only thing to prioritize.

During intentional time together, micromoments can be reprioritized: holding hands, sharing presence, revisiting an inside joke, and laughter. These micromoments are what fill a relationship bucket, build connection, and create resilience even in the busiest seasons.

Try this: Hand on each other’s chest, tuning into partner’s heartbeat.

Intentional Time Isn’t a Luxury

Let’s reframe what it means to take intentional time together for a relationship. It isn’t a luxury–it’s a necessity. In the long run, it keeps relationships thriving and partners feeling close. When we feel connected with our significant other, it allows us to feel resilient in all areas of our lives–especially the hard ones.

And as I offer the couples who show up in my therapy room: When we don’t pour water into our relationship, the proverbial plant wilts. And you–and your relationship–deserve to feel that spark and excitement that comes with intentional time together.

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About the Author

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She is the creator of Be Connected Digital, where she teaches people all over the world how to have healthy relationships. Her work has been featured in outlets like The New York Times, Forbes, and Time, and her research has appeared in peer-reviewed academic journals. Dr. Tracy is the author of You, Your Husband, and His Mother, and I Didn't Sign Up for This and the host of the top-100 parenting podcast Dear Dr. Tracy. The owner of Ottawa’s mental health clinic Integrated Wellness, she lives in Ottawa with her husband and two children.

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The Power of Intentional Time Together: Building Emotional Connection in Your Relationship

1. It focuses our attention

2. Intentional time together creates space for curiosity

3. It strengthens emotional safety

4. It's a reminder that it's not about the roles you play but instead the interconnectedness

5. Autonomy is part of togetherness

6. Connection is built through micromoments

Intentional Time Isn’t a Luxury

About the Author

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